To Be a Success

I think you may now have firmly grasped the idea that to be a success with building one’s confidence, or any personal growth pursuit, one needs to:

• learn the techniques thoroughly
• make sure we carry out ALL the baby steps completely
• build the muscle of the success tool, starting with small goals
• be persistent until it starts working for us.

There is an attitude you can adopt to help you with the first two suggestions above. The last point can also be expanded upon.

To avoid becoming over confident with regard the simple success tools I shall share with you on this site and on the online/face-2-face personal development courses, we can decide to have the attitude of:

• someone who is wanting to learn
• someone who hasn’t got any of the answers
• and is keen to try out everything more than once!

I find that the people who adopt this attitude – and some of them have lots of qualifications and knowledge about personal growth – are the ones for whom my workshops and courses work to the greatest degree. Those who do not adopt this attitude – whether they have knowledge or not – find it all hugely interesting but do not get the same results…

As I said on my first post, I find it a great tragedy that only 10 – 20% of people who join personal growth seminars around the globe actually get the results they are after. I want you to get the most from any self improvement training you may undertake, so I’m going to persist with this, until all the baby steps are revealed.

Persistence is a key ingredient to building confidence in any sphere of life, including personal development. Just like anything that is new to us, when we start to learn the new skill for the first time, we are hesitant and make lots of mistakes. When you learned to walk: did you fall down a few times or were you up and running the very first time you tried? When you learned to ride a bicycle: were you speeding around and doing wheelies or riding with no hands the first time you tried, or did it take time to develop the necessary balance and skill?

It’s the same with techniques for personal success and well-being. The success tool may appear to be very simple, and we are familiar with similar techniques. Just as there is only a subtle difference between being balanced upon two wheels and being unbalanced, there are often subtle differences between recognising a technique, and its successful implementation.

The subtleties of success tools are usually not apparent until we have tried it a couple of times. For me, this is one of the most satisfying times of any personal development course: when someone comes back with questions after they have tried a particular technique and now find new layers of enquiry (sometimes stated as a problem) – wonderful, we are now getting to the subtle aspects that will make it really work!